> It might seem like semantics to you, but it's a big difference to an obese person like myself. No, it's not semantics to me. It's poor, inconsiderate, and unintentionally hurtful wording on my part. And I understand the huge difference those two phrases have. I'm really sorry.
> Actually, statistically, it does slightly increase the chance of contracting HIV in Western culture. I'm sure this is true, but do you think it's out of context?
It also seems like a healthier homosexual culture has developed over the past decade. Before, I wouldn't hesitate to agree about all of the social pressures... I mean, to be homosexual in the 80's pretty much meant that you had to take part in the hedonistic, anonymous, and "deviant" behavior of the subculture, didn't it? But now, in American, you have homosexual Republicans who can lead almost as "normal" a life as heterosexuals. My logic might be a stretch though... but I am hoping that society is coming to accept homosexuality and so those social pressures will minimize greatly. :) One can hope.
When you call something 'unacceptable,' you are ostracising the behaviour, and by default, the person. You're right, and this is where I was in the wrong. I honestly don't condemn the behavior, and I don't condemn you AT ALL. (You know I think you're beautiful.)
When someone says something having no idea just how damaging their wording can be, it is a symptom of a greater problem. I'm an idiot with an inability to communicate properly? I am aware of this, and I have accidentally done this to other people. I expect them to automatically understand what I'm trying to say... and that's particularly unfair online. Again, I'm really sorry.
It is now okay to call obesity 'unacceptable,' well it was once okay to call a lot of other 'problematic behaviours' unacceptable too. Doesn't make it right or okay. That's also true. I'm not sure if I come across as though I'm a know-it-all, but I assure you that I'm always open to being corrected or called out.
Re: Forgive my harshness
No, it's not semantics to me. It's poor, inconsiderate, and unintentionally hurtful wording on my part. And I understand the huge difference those two phrases have. I'm really sorry.
> Actually, statistically, it does slightly increase the chance of contracting HIV in Western culture.
I'm sure this is true, but do you think it's out of context?
It also seems like a healthier homosexual culture has developed over the past decade. Before, I wouldn't hesitate to agree about all of the social pressures... I mean, to be homosexual in the 80's pretty much meant that you had to take part in the hedonistic, anonymous, and "deviant" behavior of the subculture, didn't it? But now, in American, you have homosexual Republicans who can lead almost as "normal" a life as heterosexuals. My logic might be a stretch though... but I am hoping that society is coming to accept homosexuality and so those social pressures will minimize greatly. :) One can hope.
When you call something 'unacceptable,' you are ostracising the behaviour, and by default, the person.
You're right, and this is where I was in the wrong. I honestly don't condemn the behavior, and I don't condemn you AT ALL. (You know I think you're beautiful.)
When someone says something having no idea just how damaging their wording can be, it is a symptom of a greater problem.
I'm an idiot with an inability to communicate properly? I am aware of this, and I have accidentally done this to other people. I expect them to automatically understand what I'm trying to say... and that's particularly unfair online. Again, I'm really sorry.
It is now okay to call obesity 'unacceptable,' well it was once okay to call a lot of other 'problematic behaviours' unacceptable too. Doesn't make it right or okay.
That's also true. I'm not sure if I come across as though I'm a know-it-all, but I assure you that I'm always open to being corrected or called out.